Every girl has heard the story of Sir Galahad and his cape, and if they haven’t, well, then, it’s time for a sit-down. We’ve learned from a young age that a true gentleman opens doors, pulls out chairs, and puts his lady before himself. We’ve seen this concept magnified, from Disney movies romantic comedies, and we’ve yet to have even met the man, but we’re already madly in love with the idea.
Every girl has this dream buried back in the deepest, darkest corners in her mind, and although the standard isn’t set, she can only hope that she does indeed, someday, meet this kind of guy – you know, the one who makes her foot pop (think Anne Hathaway). Unfortunately, however, as reality sinks in, think about the last time you saw a boyfriend pull out a chair for his girl, or witnessed a random guy keeping the door open for the next woman who was about to walk in. Chances are, none, unless of course, he’s borderline middle-aged.
I don’t know what it is about this particular generation, but I have only heard of a handful of guys who do these things. Something that’s supposed to be in men what the nurturing nature is to the fairer sex is a depressing rarity these days, and while some guys are still rather polite (read: some), most are just downright rude and uncouth.
Women wear lipstick, carry babies, and call their male friends to lift heavy things, so where are those who still embrace the traditional role of letting a woman walk in front of him – not because he wants to check out her ass, but because he respects her? What happened to the guy who opens a door and lets the lady through first? If anything, women are treated worse now than they were hundreds of years ago, because back then, we were placed way up high on that pedestal.
Knights would ask women to wear their favors, and it was a privilege (not a right!) to get underneath those plenty skirts. In conversations with my mother, she has mentioned many times that back then, it was unheard of for the guy to be picked up, and despite the years, I still think they had it right back then. Modernity murdered chivalry, and it went unnoticed. If the guy is courting you, shouldn’t he be willing to take the monorail train through every last stop and back if you really are that important? Are you losing out if he doesn’t?
I’m no feminist on a mission to have all girls go on strike. I love men, I adore them, and I’m only saying these things to help.
Memo: Girls don’t talk about the richest guys they’ve dated or the ones who were best in bed. Pardon, they’re vaguely mentioned through the course of a conversation, but wouldn’t you rather be the main agenda than a topic merely passing through?
We remember the men who make us feel special – not by buying us pretty things, but by showing relentlessly, consistently, and sincerely that we are admired and adored. We talk about those who put us first in a way so fond, that the girl who dates him should really count her blessings because she’d be hard-pressed to find someone better. We work hard for the ones who insist on working harder for us – and really, holding a door open for an extra lousy two seconds isn’t exactly rocket science, is it? What’s that compared to all the loving she’ll give you later on?
That’s just something to think about the next time you take a girl out on a date. Of course, I doubt she’d complain if you bought her that pretty Rolex in the window as well!
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