So the other day I went to the movie theater down the street to watch ‘He’s Just Not That Into You‘.
Now I’d recommend it to every sap in search of a good romantic comedy – how can you go wrong with something that was inspired by an episode of ‘Sex and The City’? – but while a part of me was enjoying the giddiness that comes with movies of this particular genre, I couldn’t ignore the one obvious spoiler of the whole film; SCARLETT JOHANSSON.
Before somebody blows a fuse, let me just clarify that I am referring to her character – a hot, blonde, bombshell of a singer who puts the moves on a married man.
Now I don’t mind the actress, but it really gets my goat when I hear of women who work against their own kind. Spoken by someone with a stepmother who was well-aware of my parents’ marriage, there are very few cases I think are only acceptable in terms of mistresses. I know there are a lot of justifications out there, but in my opinion, what gives anyone the right to rob someone of their happiness, even it’s for the sake of ours? Even if it means securing your happily ever after, how can you be sure that you’re not stealing someone else’s as well?
If you find that you’re getting yourself involved with a man who’s spoken for, heed the warning signs and put an end to it a.s.a.p. As much as we hear of people finding themselves in that situation and still living happily ever after, take note:
‘You are NOT the exception, you ARE the rule.’ (He’s Just Not That Into You, 2009)
Men who try and make it happen with you might not be as sincere as they might seem. In most cases, you’re setting yourself up for heartbreak, as I’ve seen in countless scenes on TV and in the movies – sometimes, they’re a lot more like reality than you might think.
If he could do that to her, what makes you think that’s not going to happen to you?
Sometimes, it’s not a once-in-a-lifetime experience. Sometimes, it becomes a habit, and a couple of years down the line, you could find yourself being cheated on as well. And in the possibility of love, don’t fool yourself by believing that it’s different this time, especially if this has happened before. While we’d like to believe we’re special, we only have so much control over another person’s actions.
You know he’s a good liar – is that really the kind of person you see yourself in a relationship with?
As good as it feels to be the other side of the fence, you’re not assured of your position there, and as much as you think you’ll never find yourself being the one being lied to instead, in the throes of love and passion, you really can’t be too sure. The woman before you probably thought the same thing. The thing is, you can hardly ever tell how good a liar is, so save yourself the possibly inevitable grief.
As impossible as it is for you to find love, it is probably just as difficult for somebody else.
Some people are lucky enough to have found love they can live with for the rest of their years. It can seem like a journey of too many challenges, but better than that succumbing to the shortcut and stealing from someone else. While the prospects for your happiness may seem bright, going along with the relationship only makes you selfish, and how could you be happy, really, knowing that you have blown another person’s chances at it?
And in the case of married men, take note; they never leave their wives. As fun as a weekend in the sack might be, it’s a lot to hope for when you’re hoping for someone to leave a person they’ve been with a lot longer. A shot at true happiness is not supposed to be easy, nor is it supposed to just fall into our laps – it takes hard-work, dedication, and an insane type of integrity. What are the odds of finding that in a mistress – or a married man, for that matter?
How do you feel about affairs?
Do enjoy the music video by Maroon 5 – She Will Be Loved. :)
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