This is a guest post written by Kee Man from Kee Man XP Dot Com
When I was invited to be the guest blogger on this site, it doesn’t take me long to think of a topic for my article. Love and religion is a binary theme that has not only shaped my life but has also triggered various issues and controversies in multiracial countries like Malaysia. Inter-faith or inter-religious relationship or marriage is indeed a fascinating thing. We lived in a multiracial society and inevitably there will be love sparks flying between two persons regardless of their race and religion.
It was not very long ago when I myself ended up in such wonderful world of transcendental love. Living in an area where Malays are the majority, I couldn’t help but immersed in understanding their culture, language and unavoidably their religion-Islam. Being a Chinese Buddhist, I always have an open mind in learning about others’ faiths and beliefs. This enlightens me about racial tolerance and for the first time in my life, it brings me the joy of inter-faith love affair.
About six years ago, I was in love with a Malay girl. She was a friend that I had known since primary school and we were very close. I was attracted not solely because of her beauty but for her inner splendor. She was a kind-hearted girl with soft-spoken voice that would melts anyone hearts. As our friendship grew year by year, I realized that I’d fallen in love with her and she felt the same way.
But we knew there was a border between us, a border that would take a strong will and courage to go across and beyond-our religions. What we expected was true, our parents couldn’t allow us to be together, all in the name of religion. Her parents proposed to me to convert to Islam in order to be with her, but surprisingly it was her who objected the proposal from the beginning. She even threatened to kill herself if such forced conversion were to be undertaken.
I was in a dilemma and I did not know what to do. But she gave me an answer: “You love me because of who I am, not because of my religion. What’s the point of converting to my religion just as a passport for us to be together? Surely, our love transcends these limited thoughts”. I was amazed by her thoughts and rarely did I see a Muslim girl like her that could give such statement.
We were in relationship for about 2 years before a tragedy separated us forever. She died in a car crash while on her way to meet me on my birthday. A tragedy that until now eludes me from celebrating my birthday, for that day is the day when she left me for God but I know our love will never die.
For those who are engaging in inter-faith love relationship, please remember that loving your partner doesn’t mean you need him or her to give up their religions unless of course he or she is wholeheartedly committed towards embracing the new religion. While conversion may give you an easy path to be with each other, you need a strong determination to fully understand each other’s religion.
“I Love You Not Because Of Your Religion But Because Love Is My Religion”
About Kee Man – “Complicated Simplicity is place for me to express my somewhat simple thoughts that may sometimes ended up complicated. I blog on everything concerning my life and anything that worth sharing from current issues to web design.” Do feel free to check out my blog here.
What do you think about this guest blog post by Kee Man? For those who are in inter-faith love relationship, do feel free to comment and I am looking forward to hear from all of you :)
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