Dating Race

A while back, Cupid Blogger posted up a couple of articles that focused on the relationship between love and religion. The particular topic received a lot of feedback in opinions and sharing experiences, and I couldn’t help but wonder if people would react any differently if we were talking about the color of our skin.

Embracing another faith when you’ve been adhering to one all your life is one thing, but what would it mean to all of you if being with someone just meant adjusting to cultural differences that are outside of what you’re used to?

In this day and age, I doubt anyone’s still dating according to a criteria that’s borderline discriminatory. You see a lot of interracial couples out there, and while that would’ve been pretty impressive decades back, these days nobody raises any eyebrows and they’re accepted almost everywhere and anywhere. But while it’s easy to be comfortable with the fact, have you ever contemplated how different it would be, in comparison to a relationship with someone who understands your background, culture, and traditions with first-hand experience, saving you the trouble of educating them towards your people’s acceptance?


Personally, I don’t have anything against interracial relationships. But that doesn’t mean that I’m not aware of the would-be problems that come with dating someone who isn’t familiar with how things go within a racial group.

Take, for example, how common it is these days to find Caucasian-Asian couples everywhere around the world. In Melbourne, they’re a dime a dozen. I don’t think anybody would mind, but they’re from two different cultures completely and that can’t be easy.

And while the idea is fairly easy to wrap your head around, it IS if they were both brought up within the same society, but for people who fall in love but are from obviously opposite places, it’s probably not the same case.

We’re defined by so many different ways – the most blatant being whether or not we’re collectivists or individualists. Then that just leads on to a whole array of values, and more often than not, you’re either one or the other. I won’t go into those particular values because honestly, I’ll probably sound a little biased, so I’ll leave you to figure out the details to what I’m talking about but to help, just sit back a while and think about the things people of other races/cultures/societies do that you’re not used to.

Thought about them yet? Things you do every day, like, possibly, taking off your shoes before you enter the house, or sharing big meals with whole family members most of the time, are foreign to a lot of people around the world, and what if things like this are easy to talk about but a lot more difficult to execute?

Cultures differ in numerous aspects, and while it’s easily accepted in a geography lesson, how would you feel if you came to that compromise? Do you think you could find the middle ground for both your values, or will there always be things you can accept – and will that get in the way of your relationship? Will you start becoming a different person altogether, or would you (quietly) hope that your someone will become a lot more like you?

Feel free to comment about them, and stay tuned for more articles on race and relationships. What do you think about interracial relationships?

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  1. i like interracial relationships.Although the couple will face some ‘technical’ problems (such as culture) but to me other than that its the same , interracial or not

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  2. I don’t mind at all. It expands our horizon. Wouldn’t be so interesting to learn about our partner’s culture and teach him/her our culture too?

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