In the ancient history of dove-mailing, distance did make the heart grow fonder between lovers. Today, it should be so much easier to keep and tender a long distance relationship especially with God-given phones, emails, instant messaging programme, video conferencing and more upcoming ITC innovations. Right?
In this contemporary materialistic world, like Madonna sang it, material girl (and boy) just wants to have fun. The knot we tie today is so loose that everything may just crumble at a pull.
It is just surprising that with the avant-garde communication developments, why people find it even harder to stay in long distance relationships? Is long distance relationship a thing of the past or we just find it hard to keep our hearts from wandering?
Among my circle of friends, I’ve only heard of failed long distance relationships. Honestly, when my then boyfriend left for the UK for his Degree, the relationship didn’t last through 6 months.
A few years later, Sherene, a college mate, anticipated the reunion with her beau while waiting for her transfer papers. When she reached Australia a year later, it was the reunion break.
I met this sweet intern girl who loves her boyfriend so much that she is willing to give long distance relationship a shot. When the boyfriend came back for Christmas holiday last year, it was yet another homerun for a break up.
Many will be thrilled and most would try anything to keep the relationship going, even though separated by continents and regions and oceans. And seriously, how many of these relationships lasted to ring the merry bells? Some did end with “… and they live happily ever after”, but the question is why most don’t, anymore?
Is it because… people changed?
In my imaginary screenplay, people used to tie the knot even before marriage. They believed in true love, knotted the string to their heart and kept it in a secret (or sacred) place. But today, many would say… “It’s the twentieth century, my dear. Break ups and divorces are now as easier as hooking up and getting married.”
Is it because of… selfishness?
When the lover is three oceans away, the feeling of obligation and the need for companionship became an excuse to justify our need to meet new people and other people. A girl-friend told me that “…he might well be enjoying himself with some blonde hotties, so why should I deprive myself from love?”
Is it because of… insecurity?
Distance may make the heart grow fonder but it may also make the heart go wander. People who had gone through an unfaithful relationship will most probably fall in this category. I remembered a guy-friend told me last year, “… she did it once. What makes you think she wouldn’t do it again? It’s just hard for me to trust her when I’m not around.” Sometimes insecurity makes our mind run wild with imaginations that may not be true. And just because we thought of it so much so that it became true, eventually.
Is it because of… loneliness?
It becomes a sudden throbbing pain when two people shared every second, every minute, every hour, every day, every week, every month… together, had to be separated, even for just a little while. When distance calls, loneliness looms in to haunt both the distant lovers. “Who would I go to the movies with? Who would pick me up for lunch?”
Sometimes when we are too attached or too dependent on the other person, we are lost when they are gone. And we develop the urge to find someone to replace the loneliness in our heart and hand.
Long distance relationship may be a beautiful fairy tale, when both make an effort to nurture and keep the relationship fresh from afar. So, whether couples in long distance relationships are truly loving the distance or distancing the love… the only stronger than any other spells, to keep a relationship alive – beyond distance and separation, over mountains and under the seas, through good and bad – is the Love Potion.
Long distance relationship? Some people say most of them failed. What is your stand on long distance relationship and your personal thoughts about this? Do feel free to comment and I am looking forward to hear from all of you. :)
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