Comments on: Long Distance Relationships: Love The Distance Or Distance The Love? http://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/ Fri, 18 May 2012 03:29:24 +0000 hourly 1 By: Lucahttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-2827 Luca Thu, 10 Nov 2011 16:15:35 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-2827 Hi, my name is Luca. I'm having a great long distance relationship... As long as the distance between Italy and Los Angeles is :) It started 2 years ago and it is still going on... Moving to LA this Christams! Ciao ciao! Hi, my name is Luca. I’m having a great long distance relationship… As long as the distance between Italy and Los Angeles is :) It started 2 years ago and it is still going on… Moving to LA this Christams! Ciao ciao!

]]> By: vanessahttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-2820 vanessa Sun, 25 Sep 2011 21:22:15 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-2820 what makes long distance relationships so hard this day and age is because really, people are so used to being in constant communication with each other (because the world is in constant communication via the media on tv, smart phones, internet, wi fi, cell phones, text messages, webcam, etc), that it really makes it SO.MUCH.HARDER to accept the inability to communicate for periods of time. Back in the day, it was accepted that it was hard to communicate over long distances, and people could wait so much more easily because they already were used to waiting for everything - you barely traveled outside a certain radius of your home town. Now people's perception of their space is much more expanded, because of cars and planes and the internet, that the urgency to be with the person that is farther away puts more stress on it than it would have been 50 or 100 years ago.also, with the world putting so much emphasis on our "futures" (education, jobs), we are constantly looking so far into the future about every other aspect in our lives that it adds on an additional stress... will we still be together next year? When will we actually live in the same state/country? What if I go to grad school? will he/she wait that long for me? what if they don't want to move here/i don't want to move there/they don't want to wait that long? I think that is another stress factor in distance relationships, because it isn't something a "normal" relationship has to think about as much, and it isn't something that people had to think about as much "back in the day", because the world wasn't as sped up as it is now.I've been in a long distance relationship for 4 years (chile and the states), and sometimes it is the most unbearable thing in the world. The most stressful thing? Just the inability to communicate... not being able to pick up the phone or call and know how he is doing, because that is what we are so used to doing with everything. Sometimes I think about it and get mad at myself for even getting stressed about it, but the fact is, it's what we are used to. That's why, I think, long distance relationships are so much harder. It makes people want to give up so much more easily because they feel like they are losing and failing if they go a few days or a week without "decent" communication.Of course, trust is another issue, but if someone goes into a long distance relationship without much trust, it wasn't much of a relationship to begin with. :) And if anyone thinks some of the stuff above ("he could be hanging out with other girls, why shouldn't I?") It is basically still a trust issue.My long distance road has been hard and have had loads of ruts and bumps along the way, but being able to openly communicate all our feelings and frustrations about everything in our lives and especially the frustrations about the distance is what makes us able to still be together. You just have to remember to really understand sometimes why you actually feel angry, because sometimes when you argue you think it is them, but it really is the inability to communicate that you are angry with, or your insecurity of their attachment to you.anyway, that's what I think. :) what makes long distance relationships so hard this day and age is because really, people are so used to being in constant communication with each other (because the world is in constant communication via the media on tv, smart phones, internet, wi fi, cell phones, text messages, webcam, etc), that it really makes it SO.MUCH.HARDER to accept the inability to communicate for periods of time. Back in the day, it was accepted that it was hard to communicate over long distances, and people could wait so much more easily because they already were used to waiting for everything – you barely traveled outside a certain radius of your home town. Now people’s perception of their space is much more expanded, because of cars and planes and the internet, that the urgency to be with the person that is farther away puts more stress on it than it would have been 50 or 100 years ago.

also, with the world putting so much emphasis on our “futures” (education, jobs), we are constantly looking so far into the future about every other aspect in our lives that it adds on an additional stress… will we still be together next year? When will we actually live in the same state/country? What if I go to grad school? will he/she wait that long for me? what if they don’t want to move here/i don’t want to move there/they don’t want to wait that long? I think that is another stress factor in distance relationships, because it isn’t something a “normal” relationship has to think about as much, and it isn’t something that people had to think about as much “back in the day”, because the world wasn’t as sped up as it is now.

I’ve been in a long distance relationship for 4 years (chile and the states), and sometimes it is the most unbearable thing in the world. The most stressful thing? Just the inability to communicate… not being able to pick up the phone or call and know how he is doing, because that is what we are so used to doing with everything. Sometimes I think about it and get mad at myself for even getting stressed about it, but the fact is, it’s what we are used to. That’s why, I think, long distance relationships are so much harder. It makes people want to give up so much more easily because they feel like they are losing and failing if they go a few days or a week without “decent” communication.

Of course, trust is another issue, but if someone goes into a long distance relationship without much trust, it wasn’t much of a relationship to begin with. :) And if anyone thinks some of the stuff above (“he could be hanging out with other girls, why shouldn’t I?”) It is basically still a trust issue.

My long distance road has been hard and have had loads of ruts and bumps along the way, but being able to openly communicate all our feelings and frustrations about everything in our lives and especially the frustrations about the distance is what makes us able to still be together. You just have to remember to really understand sometimes why you actually feel angry, because sometimes when you argue you think it is them, but it really is the inability to communicate that you are angry with, or your insecurity of their attachment to you.

anyway, that’s what I think. :)

]]> By: Rikhttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-2819 Rik Sun, 25 Sep 2011 20:55:05 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-2819 I got inspiration from learning about the long distance relationship between a close friend and his girlfriend. The two where seperated by distance (Netherlands - Denmark) but, as they told me, each morning one of them would wake up the other by calling on the phone and sing a little song. Cute!And I can say it paid off: they now live together. So there is always hope!I was inspired to design Wakelicious Alarm Clock, an iPhone app for people in a LDR with which you can surprise your loved one, where ever they may be, with your handpicked YouTube video. With Wakelicious sharing music is like showing your feelings or thoughts without the need of actually saying/writing it.I hope everyone in a long distance relationship can keep the love going, and use Wakelicious to wake up with a song from their loved ones (http://www.wakelicious.com). I got inspiration from learning about the long distance relationship between a close friend and his girlfriend. The two where seperated by distance (Netherlands – Denmark) but, as they told me, each morning one of them would wake up the other by calling on the phone and sing a little song. Cute!

And I can say it paid off: they now live together. So there is always hope!

I was inspired to design Wakelicious Alarm Clock, an iPhone app for people in a LDR with which you can surprise your loved one, where ever they may be, with your handpicked YouTube video. With Wakelicious sharing music is like showing your feelings or thoughts without the need of actually saying/writing it.

I hope everyone in a long distance relationship can keep the love going, and use Wakelicious to wake up with a song from their loved ones (http://www.wakelicious.com).

]]> By: JdJhttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-2812 JdJ Fri, 19 Aug 2011 21:46:40 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-2812 I confirm that it's really hard for two lovers who used to be together every second for a very long time and have to be apart afterwards. Loneliness arises fast if apart. It is feasable to stay apart when you share your daily life and every moment as if you were together (email, instant messenger, etc) and your sweetie does the same way. But if some problems arise (fight about sth, disagreement, jalousie, ...) you need to get along fast or it would be over fast. Try to forgive, to be soft with your sweetie if you truly love her/him. Try to understand. Discuss everything. There are always solutions to problems. Try to get along as fast as you can and to motivate each other and remind each other of the time you spend together happily. Don't give up. Fight, if you truly want to spend your whole life with your sweetie. Words are here very important. Don't rush with words that you will regret afterwards. Words are everything in this position. - Peace and Love for All - I confirm that it’s really hard for two lovers who used to be together every second for a very long time and have to be apart afterwards. Loneliness arises fast if apart. It is feasable to stay apart when you share your daily life and every moment as if you were together (email, instant messenger, etc) and your sweetie does the same way. But if some problems arise (fight about sth, disagreement, jalousie, …) you need to get along fast or it would be over fast. Try to forgive, to be soft with your sweetie if you truly love her/him. Try to understand. Discuss everything. There are always solutions to problems. Try to get along as fast as you can and to motivate each other and remind each other of the time you spend together happily. Don’t give up. Fight, if you truly want to spend your whole life with your sweetie. Words are here very important. Don’t rush with words that you will regret afterwards. Words are everything in this position.
- Peace and Love for All -

]]> By: CJ Koalahttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-2796 CJ Koala Wed, 20 Apr 2011 16:49:32 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-2796 Aww can you make a picture like that with tampico, mexico and netherlands?I would love you for that :x Aww can you make a picture like that with tampico, mexico and netherlands?

I would love you for that :x

]]> By: Victoria's Husbandhttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-2732 Victoria's Husband Sun, 20 Mar 2011 02:55:48 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-2732 Yea, everything my wife say is true. I believe in every word she says and I am always there for her no matter what the circumstances are. It has been that way and it will always be like that. I am glad I found her in my life and I thank god for bringing her to my life. The most I can say is I am the happiest man alive when I am with her. And this is a long distance relationship. ;-) Yea, everything my wife say is true. I believe in every word she says and I am always there for her no matter what the circumstances are. It has been that way and it will always be like that. I am glad I found her in my life and I thank god for bringing her to my life. The most I can say is I am the happiest man alive when I am with her. And this is a long distance relationship. ;-)

]]> By: victoria paudelhttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-2731 victoria paudel Sun, 20 Mar 2011 02:49:32 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-2731 well, me and my fiance have beeen dating for almost a year now but the major problem is that he is from california and i am from illinois! we both are taking things slow until i am really with him forever! if people say long distance relationsship cant last well there wrong! it can u just have to trust your mate and be postive never negative! they are just mad that they had a long distance relationship and it didnt work so they think that it wont work for other people!!!!!!!!!!!! love:Victoria Paudel well, me and my fiance have beeen dating for almost a year now but the major problem is that he is from california and i am from illinois! we both are taking things slow until i am really with him forever! if people say long distance relationsship cant last well there wrong! it can u just have to trust your mate and be postive never negative! they are just mad that they had a long distance relationship and it didnt work so they think that it wont work for other people!!!!!!!!!!!! love:Victoria Paudel

]]> By: Meganhttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-2729 Megan Sun, 06 Mar 2011 11:23:21 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-2729 Me and boyfriend have been together a year now. He's in Germany, and I am in the UK. Yes, it gets damn tough, yes it's very very hard, but a Long distance relationship has a certain difference to a close distance relationship for me. For starters, it's not about sex, if it was I wouldn't be going out with a guy who was 750km away from me. You have a strong sense of trust with the other person, you have to trust them because if you don't, long distance suspicion will kill the relationship. I love him, he loves me, and for us although a long distance relationship isn't convenient, it holds a pure quality, a trustworthy and beautiful quality that not many modern day couples have. You love that person because of their personality and mind -- and I really do mean that --- not for their sexiness and allure, or their material goods. Me and boyfriend have been together a year now. He’s in Germany, and I am in the UK. Yes, it gets damn tough, yes it’s very very hard, but a Long distance relationship has a certain difference to a close distance relationship for me. For starters, it’s not about sex, if it was I wouldn’t be going out with a guy who was 750km away from me. You have a strong sense of trust with the other person, you have to trust them because if you don’t, long distance suspicion will kill the relationship. I love him, he loves me, and for us although a long distance relationship isn’t convenient, it holds a pure quality, a trustworthy and beautiful quality that not many modern day couples have. You love that person because of their personality and mind — and I really do mean that — not for their sexiness and allure, or their material goods.

]]> By: Sofortkredithttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-2716 Sofortkredit Tue, 15 Feb 2011 13:43:53 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-2716 The amount of Sofortkredit charge cards should you have for you to repair Sofortkredit?I'm trying to rebuild my Sofortkredit right after ID theft, a few problems that were my own along with many years of basically devoid of just about any Sofortkredit reported. (I primarily utilize my personal credit minute card and also spend cash with regard to almost everything). We make good money right now along with am trying to repair in order to buy a condo over the following couple of years. Our very good company accounts (leasing, club, cable television, mobile, and so on.) never have documented my personal very good Sofortkredit. Now how several credit cards do i need to get that will help enhance my personal Sofortkredit report however , not prevent my own Sofortkredit. Thanks! The amount of Sofortkredit charge cards should you have for you to repair Sofortkredit?I’m trying to rebuild my Sofortkredit right after ID theft, a few problems that were my own along with many years of basically devoid of just about any Sofortkredit reported. (I primarily utilize my personal credit minute card and also spend cash with regard to almost everything). We make good money right now along with am trying to repair in order to buy a condo over the following couple of years. Our very good company accounts (leasing, club, cable television, mobile, and so on.) never have documented my personal very good Sofortkredit. Now how several credit cards do i need to get that will help enhance my personal Sofortkredit report however , not prevent my own Sofortkredit. Thanks!

]]> By: Iliana Depeysterhttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-2705 Iliana Depeyster Wed, 02 Feb 2011 05:48:13 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-2705 Undeniably imagine that which you said. Your favourite reason seemed to be at the internet the easiest thing to consider of. I say to you, I certainly get irked at the same time as folks consider concerns that they plainly don't recognise about. You controlled to hit the nail upon the top and also outlined out the entire thing without having side effect , folks can take a signal. Will likely be back to get more. Thank you Undeniably imagine that which you said. Your favourite reason seemed to be at the internet the easiest thing to consider of. I say to you, I certainly get irked at the same time as folks consider concerns that they plainly don’t recognise about. You controlled to hit the nail upon the top and also outlined out the entire thing without having side effect , folks can take a signal. Will likely be back to get more. Thank you

]]> By: Retrotapetenhttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-2703 Retrotapeten Tue, 25 Jan 2011 09:03:35 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-2703 Interior decorating whizzes assist! or anyone familiar with the Garage store change rooms!? I went into Garage the other day and i genuinely like the boo chic style the change rooms were in. With the Retro Retrotapeten wallpaper and the bold colors, with chandeliers. How can i locate Retrotapeten wallpaper like that? Or can i paint it like that by some means? Interior decorating whizzes assist! or anyone familiar with the Garage store change rooms!? I went into Garage the other day and i genuinely like the boo chic style the change rooms were in. With the Retro Retrotapeten wallpaper and the bold colors, with chandeliers. How can i locate Retrotapeten wallpaper like that? Or can i paint it like that by some means?

]]> By: Social Media Momhttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-2695 Social Media Mom Tue, 18 Jan 2011 19:35:33 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-2695 Title for my mother blog? hey! i wannabe commence writing a weblog and im a youthful new momma so i want it to sort of be about my child and life as a brand new mommy.. BUT i can't think of a cute catchy weblog title! any ideas???? thanks ahead of time ;D Title for my mother blog? hey! i wannabe commence writing a weblog and im a youthful new momma so i want it to sort of be about my child and life as a brand new mommy.. BUT i can’t think of a cute catchy weblog title! any ideas???? thanks ahead of time ;D

]]> By: Michaelhttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-1187 Michael Thu, 27 Aug 2009 23:28:53 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-1187 I sit here on my computer searching the internet because i have nothing better to do right now.. and i stumble onto this page and am very intrigued. I am in a long distance relationship, and every single thing you listed is something that every couple needs to work on in a relationship. You hit the nail on the head honey. We are lonely, we hurt for our lover, and our mind definitely wanders. But if you honestly love your partner before the distance, then everything should be fine. Love can concur anything, and a little thing like distance would never be the reason why our relationship would end. If you stay honest, faithful, and set up some "guidelines" then things will work - like calling each other every night, making sure that not only one person is visiting the other. I view any relationship like this (as vague as it may be) your relationship is like a job. You either do the work, or when the work isn't worth it, you quit or get fired. If anyone stumbles upon this I hope you realize anything is possible, and a long distance relationship is more than possible. I sit here on my computer searching the internet because i have nothing better to do right now.. and i stumble onto this page and am very intrigued. I am in a long distance relationship, and every single thing you listed is something that every couple needs to work on in a relationship. You hit the nail on the head honey. We are lonely, we hurt for our lover, and our mind definitely wanders. But if you honestly love your partner before the distance, then everything should be fine. Love can concur anything, and a little thing like distance would never be the reason why our relationship would end. If you stay honest, faithful, and set up some “guidelines” then things will work – like calling each other every night, making sure that not only one person is visiting the other. I view any relationship like this (as vague as it may be) your relationship is like a job. You either do the work, or when the work isn’t worth it, you quit or get fired. If anyone stumbles upon this I hope you realize anything is possible, and a long distance relationship is more than possible.

]]> By: jamiehttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-1078 jamie Wed, 29 Apr 2009 13:57:16 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-1078 Thank you, Shin Chan.LOVE does crazy things to us. And we do crazy things out of LOVE. The greatest part in love is that, with all the sacrifices done and gone, we look back and still realise we didn't miss anything. You get what I mean?We're still very looking forward to tomorrow because we know the decision we made years ago - was the RIGHT decision.God is LOVE. And in Him, we love others. I believe you'll experience His utmost blessing and love - from the love you provide and the love you receive.Keep your heads up!Love on behalf of CupidBlogger team - jamie<abbr><em>jamie’s last blog post..<a href="http://jamiethewriter.blogspot.com/2009/03/huh.html" rel="nofollow">huh?!</a></em></abbr> Thank you, Shin Chan.

LOVE does crazy things to us. And we do crazy things out of LOVE. The greatest part in love is that, with all the sacrifices done and gone, we look back and still realise we didn’t miss anything. You get what I mean?

We’re still very looking forward to tomorrow because we know the decision we made years ago – was the RIGHT decision.

God is LOVE. And in Him, we love others. I believe you’ll experience His utmost blessing and love – from the love you provide and the love you receive.

Keep your heads up!

Love on behalf of CupidBlogger team – jamie

jamie’s last blog post..huh?!

]]> By: ShinChanhttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-1073 ShinChan Tue, 28 Apr 2009 07:40:08 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-1073 Man, all the comments strike me. Nice post Jamie. =)I maybe gonna face this problem next year because of my other half maybe going to oversea and study. We promise to go oversea together and take Master but it seems abit blurry now. =/ I might be selfish if i don't let her go, but as time goes i felt like she wanna stay with me.As for me, i had the chance to go oversea 2 years ago. But i chose to stay by her because for me, no matter where am i in this world, as long as i am with her i will be allright. Not to say i am sticky type of guy or what, but i think if i am a 'high quality' guy i can get good result here in Malaysia uni as well.Now i pray to God to show me the way.<abbr><em>ShinChan’s last blog post..<a href="http://neverwin-shinchan.blogspot.com/2009/04/weather-report.html" rel="nofollow">Weather Report</a></em></abbr> Man, all the comments strike me. Nice post Jamie. =)

I maybe gonna face this problem next year because of my other half maybe going to oversea and study. We promise to go oversea together and take Master but it seems abit blurry now. =/
I might be selfish if i don’t let her go, but as time goes i felt like she wanna stay with me.

As for me, i had the chance to go oversea 2 years ago.
But i chose to stay by her because for me, no matter where am i in this world, as long as i am with her i will be allright.
Not to say i am sticky type of guy or what, but i think if i am a ‘high quality’ guy i can get good result here in Malaysia uni as well.

Now i pray to God to show me the way.

ShinChan’s last blog post..Weather Report

]]> By: jamiehttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-581 jamie Thu, 29 Jan 2009 02:53:28 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-581 Beloved ReadersI'm glad Cupid Blogger Dot Com and this post connect all of us from different parts of the world. Undeniably, love is the greatest! Let's share our love and make this world a better place *hugs*Love jamie<abbr><em>jamie’s last blog post..<a href="http://jamiethewriter.blogspot.com/2009/01/two-sides-of-door.html" rel="nofollow">two sides of a door</a></em></abbr> Beloved Readers

I’m glad Cupid Blogger Dot Com and this post connect all of us from different parts of the world. Undeniably, love is the greatest! Let’s share our love and make this world a better place *hugs*

Love
jamie

jamie’s last blog post..two sides of a door

]]> By: jamiehttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-580 jamie Thu, 29 Jan 2009 02:50:21 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-580 Mirna, you go girl! Love stories like yours will give hope to loverbirds all around the world.Cheers!<abbr><em>jamie’s last blog post..<a href="http://jamiethewriter.blogspot.com/2009/01/two-sides-of-door.html" rel="nofollow">two sides of a door</a></em></abbr> Mirna, you go girl! Love stories like yours will give hope to loverbirds all around the world.

Cheers!

jamie’s last blog post..two sides of a door

]]> By: Mirnahttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-578 Mirna Wed, 28 Jan 2009 17:01:49 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-578 @jamie,My current relationship started from online dating, continued with LDR. Phewww..............<abbr><em>Mirna’s last blog post..<a href="http://searchyourlove.info/what-are-the-odds-of-finding-mr-right-online.html" rel="nofollow">What Are the Odds of Finding Mr. Right Online?</a></em></abbr> @jamie,

My current relationship started from online dating, continued with LDR. Phewww…………..

Mirna’s last blog post..What Are the Odds of Finding Mr. Right Online?

]]> By: Cupid Bloggerhttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-575 Cupid Blogger Wed, 28 Jan 2009 01:50:45 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-575 I didn't know that your long term relationship is from the net. :) Hahaha..Online dating is even challenging than Long Distance Relationship. I am going to write on that topic soon.Stay tuned :) I didn’t know that your long term relationship is from the net. :) Hahaha..

Online dating is even challenging than Long Distance Relationship. I am going to write on that topic soon.

Stay tuned :)

]]> By: Alicjahttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-574 Alicja Tue, 27 Jan 2009 15:08:02 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-574 Dear mam :) It's really sad to hear your relationship has failed... It always pulls me down a bit hearing that someone has had a heartache because of no trust and lies. On the other hand, it makes me stronger also and smarter, helps me in not making some mistakes. It is true that the hardships of long distance relationships are sometimes very hard to overcome... But what does not kill us, makes us stronger, right? ;)I believe that each one of us, was created by God to Love and be Loved by someone, someone who was cut out only for us :) So please don't keep grudges too long, cause I'm sure you are a great girl and you deserve a true Love! So please, don't keep your doors closed for too long and when Love knocks on your door, don't let it wait for too long :D With best wishes for you,Alicja*keeps her thumbs up* Dear mam :)
It’s really sad to hear your relationship has failed… It always pulls me down a bit hearing that someone has had a heartache because of no trust and lies. On the other hand, it makes me stronger also and smarter, helps me in not making some mistakes. It is true that the hardships of long distance relationships are sometimes very hard to overcome… But what does not kill us, makes us stronger, right? ;)I believe that each one of us, was created by God to Love and be Loved by someone, someone who was cut out only for us :) So please don’t keep grudges too long, cause I’m sure you are a great girl and you deserve a true Love! So please, don’t keep your doors closed for too long and when Love knocks on your door, don’t let it wait for too long :D
With best wishes for you,

Alicja

*keeps her thumbs up*

]]> By: jamiehttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-571 jamie Tue, 27 Jan 2009 12:08:43 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-571 mam, the most important about failed relationships is that we learnt from it, improve and move on to love better... maybe even accepting the other person just as he/she is. and also, feel free to experince love once again *wink*<abbr><em>jamie’s last blog post..<a href="http://jamiethewriter.blogspot.com/2009/01/two-sides-of-door.html" rel="nofollow">two sides of a door</a></em></abbr> mam, the most important about failed relationships is that we learnt from it, improve and move on to love better… maybe even accepting the other person just as he/she is. and also, feel free to experince love once again *wink*

jamie’s last blog post..two sides of a door

]]> By: jamiehttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-570 jamie Tue, 27 Jan 2009 12:06:56 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-570 mam, the pleasure is mine to reply to you. I wish you all te best in your studies and as God loves us, may you find true love in due time. Keep ya heads up, gal... love is the greatest, and love will never cease.<abbr><em>jamie’s last blog post..<a href="http://jamiethewriter.blogspot.com/2009/01/two-sides-of-door.html" rel="nofollow">two sides of a door</a></em></abbr> mam, the pleasure is mine to reply to you. I wish you all te best in your studies and as God loves us, may you find true love in due time. Keep ya heads up, gal… love is the greatest, and love will never cease.

jamie’s last blog post..two sides of a door

]]> By: mamhttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-569 mam Tue, 27 Jan 2009 06:31:47 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-569 @Mirna, just enjoy the moment, it is so nice to love and be loved even in a distance. What is important is that you are happy to be with that person, and he is also happy to be with you. He was my first chat mate, and the only man in the world whom I gave so much time and attention. It was so hard on my part because love was developed along the way, however I believe that I do not have to go on in a relationship that is full of lies. I am just hoping he will not be my last chat mate (lol. I read some success stories of online love affair, and I really envy them, but we have different experiences, and each of us has our own story. I do not want to be involved in a relationship right now, either online or in real life.I have had two heartaches, but this was more painful than the previous one, however it does not mean that I will not allow myself to fall in love again, but as of now, I want to give myself a chance to experience the wondrous feeling of being alone, away from pain. And if someday I will fall in love again, I hope it will be for a lifetime commitment and happiness. Good luck to you and God bless us all. @Mirna, just enjoy the moment, it is so nice to love and be loved even in a distance. What is important is that you are happy to be with that person, and he is also happy to be with you. He was my first chat mate, and the only man in the world whom I gave so much time and attention. It was so hard on my part because love was developed along the way, however I believe that I do not have to go on in a relationship that is full of lies. I am just hoping he will not be my last chat mate (lol. I read some success stories of online love affair, and I really envy them, but we have different experiences, and each of us has our own story. I do not want to be involved in a relationship right now, either online or in real life.I have had two heartaches, but this was more painful than the previous one, however it does not mean that I will not allow myself to fall in love again, but as of now, I want to give myself a chance to experience the wondrous feeling of being alone, away from pain. And if someday I will fall in love again, I hope it will be for a lifetime commitment and happiness. Good luck to you and God bless us all.

]]> By: mamhttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-568 mam Tue, 27 Jan 2009 05:52:48 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-568 You are right Jamie, it was so hard. I got the courage to finally decide to cut everything about us because there came a time that I could not tolerate his lies anymore. It is very painful to lose him, but it is more painful to hold him knowing I do not trust him anymore. I just always remember what my mother told me when I failed the bar examinations; the All-seeing God does not play dice with our destinies,even pain has a purpose. I know someday I will still fall in love, at the right time with the right man. Right now, I am trying to give focus in my studies in the graduate school. Thank you for taking time to reply in my comment, I hope I help you understand more on what it takes to have a long distance relationship, specially to fall in love online. You are right Jamie, it was so hard. I got the courage to finally decide to cut everything about us because there came a time that I could not tolerate his lies anymore. It is very painful to lose him, but it is more painful to hold him knowing I do not trust him anymore. I just always remember what my mother told me when I failed the bar examinations; the All-seeing God does not play dice with our destinies,even pain has a purpose. I know someday I will still fall in love, at the right time with the right man. Right now, I am trying to give focus in my studies in the graduate school. Thank you for taking time to reply in my comment, I hope I help you understand more on what it takes to have a long distance relationship, specially to fall in love online.

]]> By: jamiehttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-565 jamie Tue, 27 Jan 2009 01:22:29 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-565 Mirna, it's hard enough to sustain a LDR, but online dating is even harder because we don't really know the other person. Although I'm not a fan of online dating, I found my first long-term relationship through the Internet.So, never say never. Love is in the air *wink*<abbr><em>jamie’s last blog post..<a href="http://jamiethewriter.blogspot.com/2009/01/two-sides-of-door.html" rel="nofollow">two sides of a door</a></em></abbr> Mirna, it’s hard enough to sustain a LDR, but online dating is even harder because we don’t really know the other person. Although I’m not a fan of online dating, I found my first long-term relationship through the Internet.

So, never say never. Love is in the air *wink*

jamie’s last blog post..two sides of a door

]]> By: Mirnahttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-564 Mirna Mon, 26 Jan 2009 15:25:44 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-564 @Mam,When I started to go online searching for my love in 2006, I had to go through some trivial relationship with several guys first until I met my current bf. All of them didn't show seriousness in the new relationship. Some disappeared just like that, with no news at all. Imagine how I felt, but I said to myself that I had to move on and not giving up on love.Your experience was something we all can learn from. It's tough, I know, I hope you can be strong and find your true love.<abbr><em>Mirna’s last blog post..<a href="http://searchyourlove.info/what-are-the-odds-of-finding-mr-right-online.html" rel="nofollow">What Are the Odds of Finding Mr. Right Online?</a></em></abbr> @Mam,

When I started to go online searching for my love in 2006, I had to go through some trivial relationship with several guys first until I met my current bf.
All of them didn’t show seriousness in the new relationship. Some disappeared just like that, with no news at all. Imagine how I felt, but I said to myself that I had to move on and not giving up on love.

Your experience was something we all can learn from. It’s tough, I know, I hope you can be strong and find your true love.

Mirna’s last blog post..What Are the Odds of Finding Mr. Right Online?

]]> By: jamiehttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-563 jamie Mon, 26 Jan 2009 13:47:17 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-563 Dearest Mam, thank you for sharing your experience with us here. I understand how difficult it is to go through such pain in a relationship and I know it must be very difficult to even express in words what you went through.You are very brave to make a wise decision to let him go and move on. You are very brave to gather te courage to share such heart-moving experience.I pray that you find true love with His guidance!Hugs!<abbr><em>jamie’s last blog post..<a href="http://jamiethewriter.blogspot.com/2009/01/two-sides-of-door.html" rel="nofollow">two sides of a door</a></em></abbr> Dearest Mam, thank you for sharing your experience with us here. I understand how difficult it is to go through such pain in a relationship and I know it must be very difficult to even express in words what you went through.

You are very brave to make a wise decision to let him go and move on. You are very brave to gather te courage to share such heart-moving experience.

I pray that you find true love with His guidance!

Hugs!

jamie’s last blog post..two sides of a door

]]> By: Mamhttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-561 Mam Mon, 26 Jan 2009 12:43:10 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-561 I envy those who survived in a long distance relationship. I did not make it. I broke-up last October with the man I met online for three years, whom I had learned to fall in love. Our relationship was very painful due to distance. There was no single day in our yahoo chat that we did not fight, but we were so good in real life. We had a good time together when we met last May, we even planned to get married. But all my hope had gone when I accidentally learned his sexual fetishes such as scat and watersports, which he hid from me. I learned it because we shared passwords in all our accounts after we met. Still I endured with him in spite of what I learned, but things did not change. He still treated me so bad on yahoo. It was just repetitious, and I was so worried that I already became immune to pain. I thought many times before I finally decided to stop everything about us. I asked advice from many people, specially to those who both knew us online. I called many times to his landlord in UK. I talked to my mother and friends here. I did not know where did I got my guts to tell him that I wanted an official break-up. I did not talk to him longer, I turned off my computer and threw everything that would remind me of him: cell phone that he gave me, the papers that he sent me for the visa application, his t-shirt… everything. I deleted all my accounts. I was crying hard. It was liked living in hell. There were times that I stared in my computer screen with tears in my eyes. The pain was so unbearable knowing he was not there anymore, but I have to choose either to let him go NOW or NEVER. Love was not enough to sustain our relationship. All I can do right now is to pray to God for his guidance. It is not easy… I envy those who survived in a long distance relationship. I did not make it. I broke-up last October with the man I met online for three years, whom I had learned to fall in love. Our relationship was very painful due to distance. There was no single day in our yahoo chat that we did not fight, but we were so good in real life. We had a good time together when we met last May, we even planned to get married. But all my hope had gone when I accidentally learned his sexual fetishes such as scat and watersports, which he hid from me. I learned it because we shared passwords in all our accounts after we met. Still I endured with him in spite of what I learned, but things did not change. He still treated me so bad on yahoo. It was just repetitious, and I was so worried that I already became immune to pain. I thought many times before I finally decided to stop everything about us. I asked advice from many people, specially to those who both knew us online. I called many times to his landlord in UK. I talked to my mother and friends here. I did not know where did I got my guts to tell him that I wanted an official break-up. I did not talk to him longer, I turned off my computer and threw everything that would remind me of him: cell phone that he gave me, the papers that he sent me for the visa application, his t-shirt… everything. I deleted all my accounts. I was crying hard. It was liked living in hell. There were times that I stared in my computer screen with tears in my eyes. The pain was so unbearable knowing he was not there anymore, but I have to choose either to let him go NOW or NEVER. Love was not enough to sustain our relationship. All I can do right now is to pray to God for his guidance. It is not easy…

]]> By: Jamiehttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-538 Jamie Sat, 24 Jan 2009 12:47:47 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-538 Russian Women, I'm not too sure how you see distance as love? Distance is separation. Love is togetherness. So do you mind to explain why 'distance is love'?Hope to hear from you soon.<abbr><em>Jamie’s last blog post..<a href="http://jamiethewriter.blogspot.com/2009/01/is-it-true.html" rel="nofollow">is it true?</a></em></abbr> Russian Women, I’m not too sure how you see distance as love? Distance is separation. Love is togetherness. So do you mind to explain why ‘distance is love’?

Hope to hear from you soon.

Jamie’s last blog post..is it true?

]]> By: Mirnahttp://cupidblogger.com/love-the-distance-or-distance-the-love/#comment-528 Mirna Fri, 23 Jan 2009 15:37:51 +0000 http://www.cupidblogger.com/?p=1004#comment-528 @Jamie and Alicja, Me too.... When I had my close distance boyfriend, I always wanted to feel and be close to him. At that time, we met almost everyday because his office was very close to mine and he'd pick me up from office and send me to home.When I first started the relationship with my current LD-BF, I also wanted to be close to him. Problem is, we are thousands miles away, different time zone too. Once or twice I kept calling him although I knew it was his work hour. Then he was upset and we had big fight just because of that. There are some tricks to avoid that. As time goes by, I have "behaved" and feel very relaxed with the relationship, we trust each other, we believe in our love and relationship. I learn a lot from my bf too since his first marriage failed, he wants to do it right this time.Although sometimes I feel jealous when I see couples holding hands, go watch movie together, etc. I know the time will come for us to be together.@Anya, You are so lucky to be able to talk with your bf over webcam. The kind of job my bf has not allow us to be online. Thanks to cheap international phone rate, we are able to talk twice everyday.Keep the faith, Spread the LUV! More power to LDR, yee haa..............<abbr><em>Mirna’s last blog post..<a href="http://searchyourlove.info/what-are-the-odds-of-finding-mr-right-online.html" rel="nofollow">What Are the Odds of Finding Mr. Right Online?</a></em></abbr> @Jamie and Alicja,
Me too…. When I had my close distance boyfriend, I always wanted to feel and be close to him. At that time, we met almost everyday because his office was very close to mine and he’d pick me up from office and send me to home.

When I first started the relationship with my current LD-BF, I also wanted to be close to him. Problem is, we are thousands miles away, different time zone too. Once or twice I kept calling him although I knew it was his work hour. Then he was upset and we had big fight just because of that.
There are some tricks to avoid that. As time goes by, I have “behaved” and feel very relaxed with the relationship, we trust each other, we believe in our love and relationship. I learn a lot from my bf too since his first marriage failed, he wants to do it right this time.

Although sometimes I feel jealous when I see couples holding hands, go watch movie together, etc. I know the time will come for us to be together.

@Anya,
You are so lucky to be able to talk with your bf over webcam. The kind of job my bf has not allow us to be online. Thanks to cheap international phone rate, we are able to talk twice everyday.

Keep the faith, Spread the LUV!
More power to LDR, yee haa…………..

Mirna’s last blog post..What Are the Odds of Finding Mr. Right Online?

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