Cupid Blogger doesn’t cater solely to romantic relationships. We acknowledge and include involvement with friends and family, and they normally go undermined when we’re captivated with a significant other. Whether you are only just dating, or are well into years of a marriage, it is often the other relationships that pay a price.
Being too busy with marriage – what with the children, those bills, and keeping your house together – is understandable. Juggling your time around so many commitments does get exhausting, and if you have to give up social calls so your family doesn’t fall apart, well, there are some things that are just too important. For this article, I’m focusing on those who are dating, those who have boy/girlfriends that take up a bulk of the time, leaving ridiculously little time to spend with the (real) nearest and dearest.
There are some cases where this sort of behavior can be excused. There are some who have horrible relationships with family, to the point where it can no longer be helped, and some who simply appreciate being in a couple a lot more than they ever have their friends. For many, though, however close they once were with other people, all of that is cast aside for the sake of one person who has only been around for a few months. Personally, I think it’s just bad manners.
I understand how it might be fun, being able to be a part of something that is, at most times, exclusive and personally special. It’s nice to have someone to see when you want – someone who sends you home, someone to rack your phone bill up for, and someone who is just yours. That doesn’t mean, however, that your friends and family are any less important, and if there’s someone you should not have to make time to see, they are (or rather, should be) the lead on that list.
It is fine if you want to go out on regular dates with your honey, but it shouldn’t be at the expense of the time you spend with everyone else. I’ve been in dozens of conversations revolving around this matter, and let me be the one to tell you, unless you have your balancing act down pat, it is often no fun for the third person when they are out with a couple. I’ve been the third wheel on many occasions, and although couples do mean well and try very hard to act as normal and neutral as all hell, it can still get rather uncomfortable.
So next time around when you’re planning a day out with friends and ‘friend’, consider group outings. Maybe make it a point to spend some alone time with other people too – and I don’t mean that by a couple of times a month. These are the people who have and will stick by you through a lot more and it wouldn’t kill your romantic relationship by spending a little more time with them. Besides, a little space and some time to come up with new stories to tell might be all you need to keep the spice intact.
“FRIENDS AND FAMILY COME FIRST“
For those who are currently dating, did you neglect your family and friends recently? If yes, do spend some quality with them and have a balance in life and sometimes a little space among couple is good too. As usual, do comment using the form below and I am looking forward on your feedback on this topic. :)
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