Thanks to Anya’s previous post, we know that people are not perfect, relationships are not perfect and we are not perfect. In fact everything in this world is not perfect, even diamonds are not 100% perfect.
However, I’m absolutely positive that love is perfect.
Love is the best gift we can stretch out to others. All the Tiffany’s, roses, and other beautiful things that money can buy stand to nothing in comparison to true love. Love is truly eternal and it lasts forever.
Love is the core that connects lovers and love is the heart of our expressions to one another. With love, we can grasp the essence of how completely and fully we can live. Because you will be remembered most, not from your accomplishments in life, but how much love you carried in your heart that touched the hearts of others.
Since we have limited time on earth (and we know not our hour), and we know that we’ll be looking back on our lives and reflect on what’s important… why not start living that way today? Yes, right at this moment? Why not plan our lives and live to the fullest based on the inevitable moment of reflection that will be upon us sooner than any of us can possibly imagine?
With the Earth Hour Campaign, we pledge to turn off the lights for one hour… but as the author, Stephen Levine says:
If you had an hour to live and could make just one phone call, who would it be to, what would you say… and why are you waiting?
So, if you had an hour to live…
Who would you call?
This reminds me of the 9/11 tragedy where many were suddenly forced to make their “one last call”.
Did anyone call their insurance agent, financial planner, banker or lawyer who would be handling their ‘remains’? Did anyone call to check in at the office?
Many of today’s working adults spend so much time at work, with the colleagues and boss, rather than their family. When that ‘one hour’ comes, they would normally be overwhelmed by guilt that they hadn’t spent much time at home with their loved ones. And often times, their feelings would be a mix of regret, grief and self-blaming.
Now I can actually say with some significance that you won’t regret saying no to your boss or other obligations in order to say yes to your life partner and your family. I know it can be hard sometimes, but when you look back someday, you’ll be glad that you did. So don’t feel guilty, just make the right choices.
For me, I would call my life partner, who is also my best friend, punching bag, guinea pig, instant ATM, advisor, motivator, #1 fan of my writings and anything I decide to engage in.
I’m sure for many of us (if not all), we already know who would be the last person we would be speaking to. But the most important is…
What would you say?
Would it be something you say as a reminder? Or something you would say for the first and last time?
With the hustle and bustle of juggling between work, family and time for ourselves, we tend to forget to tell our loved ones how much we care and love them. Our love must be expressed every single day, so that when we are face-to-face with the last hour or last call situation… we would be merely reminding our loved ones of our love.
It wouldn’t be a pleasant goodbye, if that last hour or last call was going to be the first time you express your love.
These are some of things that I would tell him:
- I love you and I cherish our relationship
- I appreciate your patience and love even when I proved to be oh-so-human
- If I could live this life again with you, I’d do so immediately on the next heartbeat
- If I’d live this life again, I’d relax and chill-out, and take life easy like you do
- If I’d live this life again, I’d spend more time hugging you because they made me feel safe and protected, and relieve all the stress
- If I’d live this life again, I’d spend more time in bed with you rather than burning the midnight oil in the living room
- If I’d live this life again, I’d spend more time with you (while awake) doing things together
The list will go on and on if I don’t stop there…
I’m sure you would have something else to say to the last person. But as I list the things that I would say to him, it dawned on me that these are the things which I wished I had done. So, knowing all these, the life changing question is…
Why are you waiting?
Since we know what we would have done better or differently, and our time is not up yet, we still have the power to change what we would say when we confront our last hour, last call to the last person.
So, why are you waiting and not doing it NOW?
For me, I would like the last conversation to be filled with gratitude, fulfillment and satisfaction. I wouldn’t want the last conversation to be “if I’d live this life again…” Because I would want to have done my very best and given unconditional love to my life partner, family, friends and the community. In short, I would want to live this life and love the people around me to the fullest, without regrets.
Like Anya asked, what if we’re the ones that need changing, not the relationship?
So, I challenge you to reflect on yourself in your relationship and take the ‘an hour to live’ challenge.
If you had an hour to live, who would you speak to?
And what you would say at that last hour?
Most importantly, why are you waiting?
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