Based on a self-help book, you can reasonably expect that the movie – He’s Just Not That Into You – might not have anything new to say about the battle of the sexes. In fact, He’s Just Not That Into You isn’t exactly a romantic comedy (as categorised), at least not in the most traditional sense.
Anyway, according to a report from the U.S. Census Bureau, International Data Base released last year, the worldwide population by gender was 3,373,654,147 men and 3,337,271,970 women.
So girls, it’s clear that we have more choices than men… so maybe you’re just not that into him, either :-) Sometimes, whether you want to believe it or not, the love is gone.
During our girl-bonding last weekend, the girls shared how and when they knew the romantic spring was up.
1. You think of him all the time – in a bad way
“I would ridicule my girl friends when they wear tube-tops,” a friend shared. “Because my then over-possessive boyfriend would get all upset and turned the beautiful evening into a nightmare.”
You’ll be surprised to realise that you’ve grown to hate some of the things you used to love and adore… just because they remind you of him.
2. White lies become your shield
“Oh, but I already have plans with the girls. We’re just hanging around for some updates, gossip and girls’ stuffs.”
But the reality is that you are partying with your girl friends at the newest club in town.
3. You don’t miss him
“Sometimes, I even forgot that we were dating…” a friend shared. “Until he called or showed up for our next date… so, have I to say more?”
He was once the first thing you thought about every day, but now you forget about him when both of you are apart.
4. He embarrasses you
“I don’t really have close friends…” another friend told her boyfriend of 3 months before they finally broke up. “Let’s be steady before we meet the parents, okay?”
Deep in your heart, the mere thought of introducing him to your friends or family makes you uncomfortable or ashamed.
5. You’re emotionally disconnected
“We were at this party one evening,” Maria opened up. “Someone was hitting on him, and truthfully I was delighted. I felt so guilty that I decided not to end another evening together again.”
You feel relief knowing someone else would replace you and you would gladly give up your place for them.
6. You can’t spark the fire
“On our first date, we dined at an amazing Italian restaurant and went to the beach for the evening breeze – but I was desperate to call it a day. It wasn’t fun at all.”
The perfect date doesn’t even make you smile, let alone incite butterflies in your stomach. No matter how good looking or sweet the guy is… you just can’t light the candle.
7. You’re looking for someone new
“I met this guy from a friend’s dinner entrée and I secretly hoped he was there alone, even before my friend introduced us.”
You meet a new guy and immediately wonders if he’s available, forgetting that you are not!
8. You create drama
“My mood could flip completely from cherry-berry to bitching-ass when we meet.”
You would fuss about the smallest thing, pick fights with him and intentionally hurt him with your words.
If you know you’re just not that into him, be honest with him rather than leading him towards the wrong direction and false expectation. Handle hearts with compassion and humanity because these traits separate us from animals, in this case… women from animals.
Are there any other tips to help girls identify the feelings to minimise the damage from dragged relationships? Tell us what you feel when you know it’s just not working out… ;-)
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